There is a certain daring in the Ferret Tarot’s Hanged Man. He is excited and fearless, having an almost Foolish quality. He looks like a trapeze artist waiting to help catch me up in his energy. He is seeing things from a different perspective and looks fearless as he swings back and forth. How different the world looks when you are upside down. It’s interesting but this reminds me of the way I feel when I’m walking a familiar path and see something that I never noticed before and it changes my whole perception of things.

The mom on the Housewives Hanged Man seems to have an almost god-like quality about her – she is he one who created The Hanged Man by hanging her son (or hubby) out to dry. Maybe he needed to get a different view about what mom does and learn to appreciate all that a housewife brings to the family. One of my biggest frustrations is when feminists treat women who decide to stay at home as women who have copped out. I give stay at home moms all the credit in the world – it is a task I am not brave enough to undertake. I have often thought that it doesn’t make much sense to have a child and then basically give him or her to someone else to raise. At the time I understand that not all families can afford to have mom stay home. Lord knows my family couldn’t.

But in cases where the mother can afford to stay home, I find that she often is treated or feels like she has less right to have a say in how things go. I’ve often heard or seen the husband act as if because he makes the money he gets to decide how it is spent. And this is such a BS attitude that it triggers a knee jerk response in me. That’s the attitude that needs to be turned on its head regardless of whether the husband or the wife is the primary bread winner, both spouses are equal partners.

Now how does this impact me? Well I’m not sure. I think part of it is just me changes my views and attitudes about certain things (anyone who knows me or only reads this blog knows how opinionated I am about things). Maybe I need to re-examine my attitudes and beliefs. In a way I’ve already started doing this by working through Julia Cameron’s The Writing Diet. It is helping me assess my relationship to food and see how I can change this connection in a way that will allow me to choose to eat healthier and not use food as an emotional crutch. I’ve been on this journey for some time now but either each cycle I learn something new and come closer to achieving my goals.