When I saw this card I was struck by something similar on both of them – they both show a bringing together of opposites, male and female and black and white (well okay they aren’t literal opposites by you get the point). They may represent differing viewpoints that have found a way to cohabitate and work together, under the guidance of a higher power. To be together, each has made choices and decisions about what they would be willing to tolerate in the relationship.

Loving anything involves decisions and choices. In a relationship we make choices based on a number of factors – appearance, personality, common interests, and socio-economic level. None are necessarily better than the others; they are all just tools we use to help determine if we might be compatibility with our love interest. I once read an article that suggested that scent influences our choice of partners. We each have a certain preference in terms of smell and if someone smells “right” to us (and what is “right” varies from person to person) we are likely to be attracted to this person. It ties in with the theory that pheromones drive our physical attraction to others.

Even in terms of friendships, we make clear choices. We may decide that we don’t wish to spend time with people who are from a different neighborhood or who didn’t go to college or who have a certain political affiliation. My person bugaboo is transplanted Yuppies moving to NYC (specifically to my neighborhood), but that’s my issue and a subject for another day.

Ultimately our choices but enrich and limit us. I have learned that when I chose to avoid certain types of people I narrow my horizons a bit. And when I am finally at a place where I can incorporate these people into my life, it often proves an enriching experience. What I have learned about myself is that I am resistant to change. So it’s not that I have a prejudice against people (most of the time), it’s that I’m just not ready to open up yet. But there have also been regrets – people I wish I had gotten to know better when I had the chance and people I wish I hadn’t wasted my time with.

On a more personal note I think what The Lovers reversed is trying to tell me is that I am at one of those crossroads again and I am resisting the inevitable (and what may ultimately prove to be a much better situation for me). I am once again at a place in my job where it is becoming apparent that things are not likely to reach a point where I will feel comfortable and able to fulfill my potential any time soon. So my options are to hang in there hoping things will get better, hang in there until I finish my degree and then move on or start looking for another job. Because I dislike change and because of what this agency means to me personally, my inclination is to hang in there. But my brain is telling me that I’m being unrealistic. I think I need to get a fresh, neutral perspective on this because I am so personally involved that I can’t see things clearly. And this is causing me to freeze like a deer in headlights. I hat that feeling. I don’t like being stuck in limbo – I prefer taking action, any action, rather than sitting and waiting. But what action should I take? ACK!!